3 Tips to Show Up More Authentically Online

Judy Tsuei writer

When it comes to sharing authentically online, I don't tout "oversharing."

I know that once you post something online, it pretty much lives in infamy, so you better be darn sure that what you say is content that you're okay having out there forever.

(In the days before I realized the power of the Internet, I did a photoshoot with a friend where I posed in suggestive clothing and for the life of me, I cannot get those photos deleted, so... if you google me, yes, you'll find the countless pieces I've published or the yoga videos on YouTube with tens of thousands of views, but you might find that, too. #confession)

There are even entire articles about how when you "break up" with someone, you never actually break up with them online, since you'll be in a photo tagged somewhere in another friend's feed and your former romantic history connection to exist.

Here are my 3 tips if you'd like to show up more authentically online:

1. Check in with your gut.

As a woman, you have more intuitive powers than you realize and you CAN USE THEM TO YOUR ADVANTAGE IN BUSINESS, so use them. Your intuition can steer you to the path of the greatest good for all.

2. Ask yourself, "Is this helping someone?"

You're a conscious individual. You want to create more good vibes in the world. Then ask yourself if what you're writing or sharing is actually contributing to elevating the energy around us. Trust me, I have had PLENTY of Taylor Swift moments where I could've really shown my scorn towards people in the ways I was wronged, but the thing that actually proved the best was acting in grace over revenge. 

Is what you're writing true to you (because in the end, all we can ever share is the truth from our own perspective) and will it help another soul?

3. Have you come through to the other side? 

Awhile back, I read an article from a writer who said that too many people publish too early. As in, they're still going through the life experience and they're already sharing about it before it's completely unfolded. Let me be clear that writing is an amazing tool to help you heal, but sharing it with the world while you're healing? Maybe not so much.

Can you come through with a valuable lesson, even in the midst of what you're going through, so that people can be emboldened by what you're going through? 

Here's an example:

The ever amazing IMO comedienne, Ali Wong, shared in an interview with Terry Gross, that when she had her miscarriage, she immediately started using it as material in her stand-up. Unfortunately, no one was laughing, and she couldn't understand why. She reached out to her colleague, Chris Rock (yep, THAT Chris Rock) who told her that, "It's too early, yo. Your audience is uncomfortable and don't feel that it's okay to laugh, because they can see that you're not really through it yet. When you've fully processed it for yourself, that's when they'll feel okay to laugh about it, too."

You've got to make sure you're okay with where you are, so your audience will feel okay, too.

How do these tips resonate with you? What have you learned in sharing online? Have you ever suffered from a "vulnerability hangover"?

Judy Tsuei