Saving My Son From His Tears
Saving My Son From His Tears
by Renee Li
Last Thanksgiving, I lost my voice.
Right before dinner that evening, my cat (who had been battling what seemed like cancer for nearly a year) collapsed and could no longer stand up on her own. I rushed her to the animal ER while my husband fed the kids their Thanksgiving dinner at home.
On the way to the ER, I told my cat, Isis, that it was okay for her to let go and go Home.
After saying this, I felt two spirit chills go up my spine.
Upon arriving at the animal ER, I found my Isis without life in her body. She probably released her physical body soon after I told her it was okay to let go because she knew I was ready to let her go.
As I tried to scoop her body up, I had to put her back down because I could not bare holding her rigid dead body in my arms. I asked for help from the vet techs inside to bring her in.
It was a night of grief and still, my voice was not there. I was unable to speak with my kids the way I wanted to about the death of our cat.
Getting My Voice Back
Once I got my voice back the next day, I was able to ask my son and daughter if they had any questions about it. My son had questions. He was sad about Isis being gone. He was also upset that his Thanksgiving was ruined, as holidays always seem to mean so much to little ones.
I did my best to talk him through it, now that my voice had returned.
On the first day back at school after the holiday, I dropped the kids off. My son’s teacher asked, "How was your thanksgiving?"
"My cat died!" he replied, then went into the details he remembered that night as his eyes welled up with tears.
I got uncomfortable. As I stood there, I found myself trying to divert the conversation and diffuse the energy of sadness.
Only after I walked away, did I realize I was trying to save my son from his tears, which I instinctively knew was not what he needed.
He was almost 7 years old.
He had emotions about all that was going on as worthy as any adult.
If he felt like he wanted to talk about it with friends and teachers, then he should.
With this insight, my thoughts raced to my own childhood when I lost my sister around the age of four in Burma, likely from internal bleeding due to a fall. My parents must have also tried to save ME from my tears and grief by distracting me towards happier things.
Over three decades later, I am still trying to process that old grief around my sister’s death.
I’m not comparing my cat’s death to my sister’s death here. What I am writing about, really, is how we all have some tendency to save our loved ones from their tears OR save ourselves from our own tears.
Do you notice yourself constantly using jokes and laughter to diffuse the sadness for yourself or others?
Do you try to change the conversation and distract towards happier things?
Do you shift into "light and love" mentality to mask the heavy emotions?
Any time, we choose to look away from the emotion that is there, we actually push it down into our cellular body.
And, when our bodies are full of these suppressed emotions, it is heavy and our energetic field becomes blocked. A blocked energetic field may filter out the very things that we pray for like love and intimacy, for example.
When we don’t let love and intimacy in to our energy field and experience, it gets hard to attract some of the other things we pray for and work hard to manifest. So much of our heart’s desires, including success in our business, are aligned with the energy of love. As the Law of Attraction states, like can only attract like.
So, I invite you now to take an honest look at the old tears you have yet to shed?
What heaviness can you release now so you can let the “LIGHT” in and receive answers to your prayers and desires?
Explore how you can let more love and intimacy in your life.
Observe when you try to save others from their tears and pause to simply stand back.
Try and see how old tears un-shed may be blocking you from the life you truly want.
The healing journey can be a long one. It can also be tough to see the root of blocks if it is very deeply rooted.
While I have been doing my own inner work and healing for the past 16 years, it has been the years when I worked with a coach or teacher/mentor where I made the most forward progress shedding thick layers of grief and old emotional imprints.
I realized that none of us are alone in our pain.
Are you ready to powerfully shift old wounds so you can position yourself in the right energetic foundation for love and intimacy?
Are you ready to receive support on your healing journey to self mastery and soul purpose success?
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About Renee Li
Renee Li is a bestselling author, speaker, business coach and serial entrepreneur for over ten years. Mastering many fears, she walked away from a six figure business to follow the ‘God bread crumbs’ and stepped into her spiritual business with both feet. That’s when she aligned with her divine blueprint and found her deeper soul’s purpose; which is to align the new generation of spiritual teachers, healers and coaches with their full potential and power so they can achieve soul purpose success.
In her work, she combines the pragmatism of a business person — people need to know they can generate a living doing spirit work — with the altruism of a spiritual person driven to heal others and restore balance and harmony in the world. Renee’s signature Soul Purpose Success Formula offers a holistic approach to business building where the right energetic foundation is key to attracting higher income and having greater impact in the world. She guides her clients to get clear about their soul’s core message, become confident selling higher priced services, and increase their visibility to attract Soul Clients.
Renee is certified in eight healing modalities and has been featured in several publications including MindValley Academy’s Soulvana and Omvana blogs, Creations Magazine and The Edge Magazine.
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